Cupid or Stupid

I’m a sucker for all things pink, anything that shimmers & themed decor… but growing up I really did not like Valentine’s Day.  There was so much pressure as to “Will I get cards?”, “Will I not get cards?” … blah blah blah. Even once I got into Middle/High School, I thought it was stupid.. boys that age really don’t get girls (unless they had help from their mom, which was few & far between).  I mean, I don’t like candy, really never have (except for M&M’s – duh) – so I wasn’t thrilled when I received a box of caramel filled chocolates (insert barf face). But, flowers.. those are wonderful – but not ideal to bring to school & to have to carry around all day or shove in your locker/backpack.  Back then (can I even say that?)…you may or may not go to dinner, depending on who’s driving (the boy/girl or the parents) & then usually, it was somewhere (at least in my hometown) that was overcrowded & understaffed. (Harsh… but true). So, the whole day just seemed superfluous & stupid.

So then, you move to college… so it should seemingly get better. You still get the same things, but they’re actually paying for dinner (well… maybe). But even still, I really think then, only Valentine’s is something the guy feels like he “has to do” & the girls feel like “he has to do this!” Is this just me?

It wasn’t until I met Paul, that Valentine’s actually became a “holiday” that I liked (now really love). One of the many reasons I love him, is that, I once mentioned to him that I really didn’t care for Valentine’s & honestly, had not had any spectacular ones that were worth mentioning. So, on our first Valentine’s, due to our schedules, we had to celebrate the day after, February 15th.  Which was fine, he cooked dinner for me at his town home, lit a couple of candles & opened a nice bottle of wine. There was nothing to it. It was simple, understated & absolutely perfect. No chocolates I had to pretend that I liked & no flowers that I had to keep alive & no waiting around for a waiter.

But this wasn’t what changed my mind. It was every Valentine’s after that. We’ve now had 6, this year will be 7 & we’ve continued to celebrate the day after. Now we go out to dinner & since it’s technically not Valentine’s day… it’s less crowded, no set menu, & although I usually look ridiculous in all pink or some sort of Valentine’s themed outfit, we have the best time. There is no pressure on either of us to, buy a gift or make a big production out of the day. If we decide to buy a gift, we do. If we decided to light candles, we do. It’s just easy. I love our “Belated” Valentine’s day. It’s our thing & well… he’s my cupid.

Last year, we added Holland to our tradition, we were decked out in our Valentine’s outfits! She was only 15 days old, it was flu season… & she had her first actual blowout while we were at dinner. Which I didn’t find out until I took her out of her seat to take a photo! Oh the looks we received…. (mainly because we had an infant in a public setting). Nevertheless, it was still perfect & one we will always remember.

This year, I have a feeling it will be so much fun with her! She loves M&M’s, pink, red & anything that shimmers – just like her mama! She’s my little Valentine, & I honestly know God knew what he was doing by blessing me with a baby girl & in the month of February.

So, how do you feel about Valentine’s? Do you think it’s stupid or a “made up holiday by Hallmark”?

Or, do you think it’s a day to show your loved ones a little extra love?!




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